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How can foreign children enhance their social charm?
Guide reading:On the first day of the implementation of the plan, Wa was still a little shy. When she came back, she had to give me three new friends'names. As a result, only one was given. So I resolutely cancelled the reward for that night. The next day, he reall
American schools are amazing. Many schools have to rearrange their students every new semester. That is to say, children in the same class will probably not be in the same class in the next year. To tell you the truth, in the first few years I came to the United States, I was not used to it. When I first started school, I was somewhat unhappy periodically and said I had no friends. No wonder, the little fellow always said that he was a shy boy, so he spent a year to cultivate a few friends, and by the second year, he had to re-classify and disappeared.
Take my son's "girlfriend" as an example. The kindergarten has a very good place where both of them go out hand in hand, and they are transferred the next year. In the second year, a "goddess" of simple heart water was divided into classes in the third year. What about the legendary plum and bamboo horse? No, Such a division system, feelings really can not be cultivated from childhood...
Once, after a week of school, my mother asked me if she had found any new friends. As a result, the boy went straight back to "No friends in the class". Then he asked which classmates were sitting around him, and the little fellow said he didn't know or know. Make a naive mother nervous, "This child will not have any social phobia, right?"
So, the wife took the opportunity to volunteer in school and sneaked into the class to observe her son's behavior. It turns out that there is little communication with other students in the class, but when the class is over, the child rushes out to play with other classes and his old friends.
Finally, the wife came to the conclusion that although there is no social phobia, the son's social ability and team work ability still need to be practiced. How to let the child quickly integrate into a new environment is really a learning!
1. Finding Problems
Now that we have found the crux, we are ready to start solving it. Why can't we find friends in the new environment?
One time when I was discussing school life with Naive, I deliberately asked him, "Do any children in your class like Pokemon?"
Pokemon is a hot game in America. Children love to play it! I also want to see if Naive can use Pokemon to open up the gap with his classmates.
As a result, my son told me that he found that a little friend also liked Pokemon, and had more than 20,000 people...
I then asked him, "What's the name of this kid?"
Think about it, shake your head!
Then I found out the problem. I thought that the reason why children didn't communicate with others was that they didn't speak or English was not good enough. But later found that this is not the case, there is no lack of topics between children, the problem is that they are unfamiliar with the environment, more introverted personality, resulting in a weak sense of initiative and communication with people, not even pay attention to the names of others, not to think of asking, no wonder there are no friends!
2. Samsung Plan
Therefore, if children want to quickly integrate into the unfamiliar environment, they must arouse their awareness of communicating with others. The first step is to know their names and the basic situation of each other.
To this end, we have formulated the Samsung Plan for the simple. What is Samsung's plan?
In fact, we need to know three new friends every day. For each new friend, we need to ask TA three questions. They are:
What's your name? (What's your name)
What's your favorite color? What's your favorite color?
What's your hobby? What are your hobbies?
Every day we go home and tell us three new friends we know and three questions about friends. Every time we find a friend, we give a star. If we can find three friends every day and collect three stars, we will give a small reward, such as an ice cream, an animated cartoon, an iPad for 10 minutes, and so on.
Despite the simplicity of the plan, it works well. Children's awareness of initiative in communicating with others has increased.
On the first day of the implementation of the plan, Wa was still a little shy. When she came back, she had to give me three new friends'names. As a result, only one was given. So I resolutely cancelled the reward for that night. The next day, he really went out and asked the children around him one by one. First, I asked my neighbor near my seat, then I began to ask my classmates who were far away from me. Next time Mama went to school as a volunteer, she found that Mama had a lot more communication with her classmates. He never went home to complain about "no friends" or anything like that. Our Samsung plan was a great success! _